Since June 22, 2016 when my life was sidelined by a heinous disease called Myasthenia Gravis I have continued to plan a wedding for my daughter. She is my only daughter and when she got engaged I told her I wanted to be the mother of the bride. Looking back I should have said nothing and let her do her thing instead, I have been planning the wedding of her dreams…I hope. She has not been vocal on decisions and told me she trusted me. Well the day is here and I hope she likes it! 😂
Our theme is how I think of her; simple, classic, southern elegance. After all we live in Georgia, her father & I raised her and her brother Adam in a home halfway between the areas we grew up. We don’t travel, we stay close to the house when we are off so simple and southern we have down pat! One of my coworkers got me a calendar for my desk titled “Butter my butt and call me a biscuit” she makes me read the country saying for her and giggles. Heck we all do because some of them I DO say! I love working with people from all over the world. It gives me great perspective on my little corner of it!!
Anyway, back to the wedding. I am excited it is here, I am excited to be expanding our family but most of all I think I will be excited when it is over. I am ready for miraculous healing in the name of Jesus over this dread disease!! Stress causes setbacks with MG and boy have I had them. No more I say!! Let’s get this party started!
As I type this it’s Thursday night, I’m washing clothes, trying to get our bags packed so I am not rushed tomorrow morning. I’ve prepared what I have to do and am looking forward to meshing the Bergeron & Poss families. I feel like I am gaining a sister and a brother! Jaron’s parents are delightful! His mother, Nancy makes me feel like I’ve known her forever and we just met last year! His dad Michael is quiet but, has a great sense of humor which fits along with us because we love to laugh. Nancy & I also love to talk! 😂😂😂 She knows I’m right! I distinctly remember sitting on the sofa in our living room the first time Jaron’s name came up. Kathryn has been going out with different people. She has been in a long term relationship that just simply didn’t work out. Her cell phone rang and her little brother snatched it up and ran through the house saying (in his best southern voice of course) “Who is Jay – Ron?” When you say that you have to add syllables to the Jay & the Ron to make it sound like it did that night and Adam still calls him that! When Kathryn beat him down and finally got the phone she talked to the voice on the other end for a while. He was in Las Vegas with friends and thought enough of her to call. My first thought was “Wow! Who is smitten more?” When Kathryn returned to the living room I simply asked who that was and the smile on her face said it all. Game changer!!! Then came the day Jaron came to our house for the first time. He made the most remarkable impression on a Mama by spending time with Adam. No one has even spent time with Adam when they came to house the first time. He acted like he was home. Jaron & Adam went outside to kick a soccer ball around and Adam liked him from the start!! Adam is a hard one to impress too. He is like a dog, this is his territory, this is his sister: he is a “You don’t mess with her but I can” kind of brother!
Things quickly became serious between Kathryn & Jaron. Jaron has said he knew when he dropped Kathryn off after their first lunch date that she was who he had been looking for. Then, he follows it up with; but she went out with someone else the next day! 😂😂 “I knew and she had to think about it!” he has said. Jaron, she knew – she was just following an agreement made before she spent time with you! I can’t wait to have you as my new son, I already feel that way about you so, we are just making it official. I made a video with a song that reminds me of you; May you always be humble and kind. I couldn’t have picked a better person to marry my daughter. Tal & I love you, we are proud of you and we will always be here for you. Thank you for simply being you!!
Now it is my turn for Kathryn. She came into our lives like a angel in pink. A head full of curly brown hair with the biggest brown eyes we had ever seen. I remember the day she was born, we could not believe all the hair she had on her head & the fact it was curly. I have zero curl in my head and by zero it could be on the negative side of zero!! She was perfection at its finest. At that time Kathryn was the second best thing I had done in my life; marrying her daddy was the first! As she grew I knew she was smart as a whip. Some kids you never remember them not doing something. Kathryn’s ability to talk was incredible! She went from Dada, Mama to “hey mama turn on that light”! She could recognize letters of the alphabet and say a word the letter started with at 13 months. Yes I said that right 13 months! She was fully potty trained at 18 months and her third Christmas at 2 1/2 she read a book to my family at the Fuller Family Christmas. I remember my cousin Michael saying she is smarter than me! She had the sweetest little accent. She would say squ-ER-Yul & Gu-ER-Yul instead of squirrel & girl. She hated the outdoors but loved some plastic high heels! I can’t tell you how many pairs she had but this chick would dress in them to go with me to the grocery store along with beads! She is still that way! She will jog in pearls! 😂😂 Kathryn is very goal oriented and when Jaron asked her to marry him she said “yes” followed by but we can’t get married until I finish college and get a job. Guess what? She has done it. She teaches school at Grovetown Middle and I am so proud of her. She is our doodle bug! She will always and forever be My Little Girl!!
As for the two of them I have some advice. Of course the old staple; never go to bed angry. It steals your joy, robs you of the happiness you have right now! Don’t let that happen, it’s a waste of time and energy! Second, do not do anything the first year of marriage you don’t plan on doing the rest of your life. My Grandma Fuller gave me this advice. Well, I didn’t understand it until about 5 years into our marriage. Let’s just say I have a spoiled husband that has had a tough time adjusting to the fact that he now has to do stuff! And the last piece of advice I have is let God be the center of this marriage. If God is the center than the two of you are no better than the other. You are equally partnered to love each other, raise a family and Glorify God. Only He can give you the peace that surpasses all understanding. I wish I had understood that sooner too. With God as the center you will be grounded and your children will be grounded. The world might seem strange but together you can conquer it. I have prayed for you and continue to pray for you daily. My prayers have included that the relationship dissolve if it is not God’s will. You two have withstood those prayers and I wish you all the happiness in the world – together. May you always be “late to the party” – happily together.
P.S. When this publishes to my blog, we will be gathering as two families for your rehearsal dinner. I can’t wait to see what life has in store for y’all. It will be fun to sit back and watch. I love you both!!